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The Soulmate Secret by Arielle Ford

Welcome to Kala’s Quick Five, where I chat with fascinating authors, artists, teachers and researchers and ask them five questions about their work. My guest today is Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret. Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is one of the founding partners of the Spiritual Cinema Circle, a DVD club dedicated to providing movies about love and compassion. She is the author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction, an international bestselling book. Arielle lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband/soulmate, Brian Hilliard and their feline friends.

Kala: Arielle, Welcome to Kala’s Quick Five. Before meeting your soulmate at the age of 44, you were a successful career woman, but described yourself as a ‘failure in romantic relationships.’  What was dating like for you in your twenties and thirties?

Arielle: Painful.  I never enjoyed casual dating and I generally felt awkward and clumsy on dates.  I had a few longer term relationships during that time but they weren’t satisfying…I was always try to “change” the one I was with to fit into my “picture” of how things should be.  Thankfully I went to therapy and did a few relationship workshops that turned me around!

Kala: You’ve set out to prove in your book that anyone can attract their soulmate at any age of their life. How did you find true love?

Arielle: I woke up one morning at the age of 43, never-married, and decided I was ready for my soulmate.  Having used a variety of “manifestation techniques” throughout my career to create success, I decided to re-purpose those prayers, rituals, and processes for my lovelife.  The first step was to forgive myself and all the ex-lovers that I judged having, “done me wrong.”  Next, I made a very detailed soulmate wish list along with a beautiful ritual to release it to the Universe. I then “feathered my nest” and prepared my home “physically and

Arielle Ford with her husband Brian Hilliard

energetically” to make space for my soulmate.  I began “living as if,” and “savoring the waiting.”  All of these processes are detailed in my book, The Soulmate Secret. Within six months I met Brian and we both knew the day we met that we were meant to be together. Three weeks later we were engaged and a year after that we had three weddings.  That was 13 years ago.

Kala: What tips can you offer to our readers on how they can attract and connect with their soulmate?

Arielle:It’s important to understand how the Law of Attraction works.  We draw to us the people, places, and experiences that match our state of being.  If we are living in a state of  “wanting” a relationship, the message we send the Universe is that something is “missing” and then we only get more of the same – the feelings of “missing” and “wanting.”  In order to manifest you must live in a stating of “knowing” and “trusting” that the LOVE you desire is already yours.  To get to this state I have a process I take people through that I call “feelingizations.” While many have heard about “visualizations,” I have renamed them “feelingizations” because they don’t work without strong emotion behind them.  In order to manifest our desires we need to feel that what we have asked for is already ours.  It’s the feeling not the image that holds the power to attract. You can try them out for free by visiting my website at

Kala: Part of your book deals with clearing out emotional baggage, before beginning to look for a new relationship. How does this baggage hinder the search for a soulmate?

Arielle:If we begin manifesting on top of the unhealed past we are likely to create more of what we created in the past.  If you are still obsessing about a past lover, there is no room for a new one.  I am not suggesting that you stop caring about someone, but I am saying you need to manage your thoughts and emotions so that you no longer obsess about them.  Think of it this way. There is only room for one car in a parking space.  If you already have a car in the parking space, you can’t squeeze another one in on top of it.

Kala: My soulmate and I have been together for many years. I found him after I learned to love myself and want the best for myself in every capacity. I think coming into a relationship with self-love made our relationship stronger. How important is self-love in regards to relationships with soulmates?

Arielle: Self-love is an important piece of the puzzle.  If you don’t care about you, how can you ask someone else to care about you?  The way you nurture yourself sends a message to others that you will care for them the same way.

For those who have an issue with self-love I suggest this simple exercise:  every time you walk past a mirror, blow yourself a kiss!

The one thing I want everyone to know is this:  There are nearly seven billion people on that planet today.  About half are single.  The odds are in your favor that you will find love, regardless of your age, weight, income, past history, etc. IF you are willing to invest a little time, energy, intention and attention to your love life.  I have tons of proof this process works.  It even worked for my 80-year-old mother-in-law!

Kala:Thank you for your time Arielle. More information about Arielle Ford and her work can be found on her website at: and

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Kala Ambrose is "Your Travel Guide to the Other Side". Award winning Author, Intuitive, Wisdom Teacher, Podcaster and Lifestyle Expert, she helps Entrepreneurs, Seekers and Visionaries live their best life.

She is the award winning author of six books including The Awakened Dreamer, The Awakened Psychic, and The Awakened Aura, and has taught thousands around the world how to connect with their soul path and destiny and create a life and career that is balanced and in tune with their life purpose and goals.

Whether she’s teaching students at her Academy of Mystical Arts & Spiritual Sciences, writing and speaking about empowering lifestyle choices or teaching to groups around the country, fans around the world tune in daily for her inspirational musings and lively thought-provoking conversations.

3 responses to “Manifesting Love through the Soulmate Secret

  1. I’m happily dating my boyfriend of almost two years now, and I am certainly in no rush to find anybody new. I am also still ambivalent on the whole notion of soulmates.
    That being said, I was surprised to find myself LOVING reading “The Soulmate Secret”! Though this book should be prioritized to your most lovelorn gal pals, this user-friendly book is loaded with a lot of feel-good, inspirational advice that will tremendously help not only single people, but people in relationships as well. Even if you are not currently seeking a romantic companion, you will at least get a great warm-and-fuzzy vibe from the absolutely wonderful this-is-how-we-met anecdotes interspersed throughout the book.

  2. I recently attended the Empath Conference at Edgar Cayce’s A.R.E. and enjoyed your presentation very much! Ever since hearing you speak, I’ve been wondering about what you had to say about new relationships. You talked about people connecting through their charkas and how if you jump into a sexual relationship too quickly the base charka connection will be the stronger bond. Ok, so how long should a person develop a ‘heart’ connection before getting involved with something more physical, of the lower charka verity? I’m not dating anyone right now but want to be prepared! Lol! 🙂 Thanks sooo much Kala! Love you!

    1. Hi Nancy, it was such a joy to teach again at Edgar Cayce’s A.R.E. Thank you so much for your feedback about my presentation there at the Empath Conference, sending you big hugs! 🙂

      Yes, when we jump quickly into the sexual experience of a new relationship first, it creates the energy cord attachment in the second chakra, without first forming the bonds (cords in the aura through the heart chakra). Since the strongest cord is then formed first in the lower second chakra, because of the sexual experience, it requires more work to move the energy upward from this area in order for the connection to form as firmly in the higher chakras in order to develop the relationship at its deepest level.

      There’s not a hard and fast rule for the time that it takes to first create the connection at the heart chakra level. It can be done in weeks if both people are aligned with each other and coming from the heart chakra level together.

      It’s different for each person including how open they are at the heart chakra level and how much energy they are willing to share with each other from the first meeting onward.

      When a relationship is at its strongest heart chakra connection, you want that person to be happy, whatever that means for them, even beyond your feelings and desires. Of course, your feelings are just as important and they should want the same for you.

      When you are both feeling that way, with respect for each other as two souls who have met and opened their heart chakras to each other in order to know each other at this level, then you are ready to how we say, mingle. 😉

      Much love to you,

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